generational trauma
generational trauma

The Body Keeps the Score Review: Trauma, Nervous System Healing, and My Journey Through Cancer

When I first read The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk, I expected a clinical discussion on trauma. What I found instead was a profound reminder that trauma is not just psychological, it lives in the body, shaping our nervous system, breath, and sense of safety.

Years before reading it, I was diagnosed with lung cancer. While medicine addressed the condition, I had to confront something deeper: unprocessed grief I had carried silently for years. My body had been holding what my mind could not.

This reflection explores how trauma is stored in the body, why talk alone isn’t enough for healing, and how safety, community, and embodied practices help the nervous system relearn trust.

Healing is not mystical. It is physiological, relational, and deeply human.

Growing Up With an Emotionally Unstable Mother

From the outside, my childhood looked comfortable and secure. But security and emotional safety are not the same thing. In this reflection, I explore growing up with an emotionally unstable mother, the complexity of loving someone who also hurt you, and how understanding her trauma does not erase its impact.